Sexuality presents as attractiveness like “You’re cute, I’m attracted to your physical-ness.” And ultimately if biology and evolution is to be trusted, that translates into “I’d be interested in having sex with you.” It’s one way to fertilize the earth I suppose.
...common roles illustrate how Black women, and their sexuality, have often been synonymous with deviance. And reclaiming, repackaging, and/or discarding the roles has given women agency; a control denied the Good Girl who is essentially invisible. She needs that.
She remembered holding his hand, thumbing the meaty part under his thumb. And she remembered how she hardly ever held his hand. Or smiled. She remembered how he smelled—soapy—and his minty breath. He said he brushed his teeth because he planned to kiss her. She remembered him fingering her eyebrows. And his eyes. She remembered [...]
After lunch he lays in her lap. She twists his hair while they watch game shows and soaps. He feels her up; she slaps his hand. Your head is heavy. She twists some more. They go out for a walk holding hands. His father’s neighborhood does not have the eyes of hers or his mom’s and as free as she feels here she knows the escape is not permanent. So when we gonna do this again?
But he has known since he met her that the girl on the other line owns herself. Only you surprise yourself by how much. You worry when he laughs, “Just wondering.” But there is more than wondering you hear.
(About Breathing Lesson 101) I was 25 the first time I fully understood. I was navigating the tenuous journey of the Good Girl. At the time I was being courted by an older man who decided out loud and before our first real date that I was a sexual outlier—an adult virgin. The encounter was [...]
WHY LI'L KIM SHOULD WEAR MORE CLOTHES two men blocked me from crossing the street when i was fifteen, and offered to pay. it was not the first time i was forced to realize i had breasts by strangers with greasy hair and hands making me want to destroy my own body before they could [...]
FDA approved for those who can’t afford organic chokes energy from WIC’ed babies thick-thighed with hormones that make steaks fat, make asses fatter Thighs rub, chafe, make heat where cold glares peer with open lips from seismic ads, invite their men to lynch-worthy dalliance. Breakbeat psalms exalt: only a dog wants a bone. Spandex expands [...]
Post Traumatic Sexualization Syndrome - a type of anxiety; typically brought on by the sexualization of the female body in its formative years and/or in such a consistent sequence that the anxiety presents in or even as her realized sexuality and sexual experience Post Traumatic Sexualization Disorder - disorder in which one's anxiety surrounding sexuality is [...]